Between high heels and flat shoes…

sep 2014

One day at a time…

This is my first time that I will start blogging and I am hoping to do this on a regular basis – just to find the time that is the big challenge. Just a little about myself, I am a Wife to an amazing husband (I think I am a wife first before a mother) any case I am also a mother of a beautiful little 2 year old. Then I am also a business owner of Mommy Wellness and Bella Roze (soon to be launched- baby and maternity body products)

English is not my first language – so please if there is/are grammer mistakes or spelling mistake please do not feel like you need to correct me because it will happen again in my next Blog!

Ok, so now that we are all on the same page – I would like to tell you why and about what I will be blogging. I love beauty, make up, high heels, nice cotton, silk clothes, perfume and the list goes on. BUT I am a Mom – and 99.9% of the time I will walk – no sorry- run out the door with my slippers on or forgot to spray perfume or walk into Woolies and spend my money on my little girl and NOT on that new silk top from Trenery! So I would like to talk/tell moms that at the end of the day we all struggle with the same things- but are not always honest about it! (do you not feel sometimes that you want to straggle that mom that will always tell you everything is going GREAT!!!) Then I think to myself WHAT THE HELL AM I DOING WRONG!!!

Any way – so I am going to blog about life – life as a Mom, Wife (whichever comes first) and as a Working Mom… I hope you enjoy it, if not stop reading my blogs because I am going to be brutally honest about things I struggle with on a daily basis. Travelling and being away from home – because you work! Guilt trip galore!

My husband and I had to fly down for Business to JHB. I had my meetings set up for the two days and he had his stuff that he needs to do. Just between us – why is it that 90% of meetings that business men attend – is always at a coffee shop? While you drive around in JHB trying to hold you Phone gps in one hand and trying to drive with the other – to go from one office park to the next – while they are sipping on a cappuccino – maybe I am doing it wrong 

Any way, we had to leave our little girl with my parents in law for two nights! (This is not the first time we had to leave her) I hate doing that because I feel guilty – then I think is all this really worth it – should I not stay at home and be a ‘BETTER’ mom? Give more attention – Guilt trip galore!

She loves staying with her grandma and granddad – that is not a problem at all. I am the problem because I feel guilty while my husband – well now that I think about it – I must actually ask him if he feels guilty or just misses her. Why do moms or women do this to themselves – then I start to worry – is she going to be have separation problems, develop separation anxiety will she cope on her own – will Grandma understand what she wants and, and, and…

We went on our trip– but one thing I noticed was that when we come back she is very clingy. Does not want me out of her sight and when I need to take her too school she not as eager to go as other days.

So I started researching what happens when a moms leaves a child and am I being a bad mom? Yes I know – I am a bit over protective – is that the word – or over thinking it, do not tell me this has never crossed your mind when you had to leave your child. Let’s start with what is Separation anxiety?

Separation anxiety is when a child gets upset when separated from a parent or loved carer. For example, a young child may become distressed when left with a baby sitter, or when put to bed by herself. Separation anxiety is normal during early childhood. It’s natural for your young child to feel anxious when you say goodbye. Although it can be difficult, separation anxiety is a normal stage of development. With understanding and these coping strategies, separation anxiety can be relieved—and should fade as your child gets older. Separation anxiety in children: what’s normal and what’s not

In early childhood, crying, tantrums, or clinginess are healthy reactions to separation. Separation anxiety can begin before a child’s first birthday, and may pop up again or last until a child is four years old, but both the intensity level and timing of separation anxiety vary tremendously from child to child. A little worry over leaving mom or dad is normal, even when your child is older. You can ease your child’s separation anxiety by staying patient and consistent, and by gently but firmly setting limits.

Some kids, however, experience separation anxiety that doesn’t go away, even with a parent’s best efforts. These children experience a continuation or reoccurrence of intense separation anxiety during their elementary school years or beyond. If separation anxiety is excessive enough to interfere with normal activities like school and friendships, and lasts for months rather than days, it may be a sign of a larger problem: separation anxiety disorder.

Easing normal separation anxiety in children

For children with normal separation anxiety, there are steps you can take to make the process of separation anxiety easier. *Practice separation. Leave your child with a caregiver for brief periods and short distances at first.
*Schedule separations after naps or feedings. Babies are more susceptible to separation anxiety when they’re tired or hungry. *Develop a “goodbye” ritual. Rituals are reassuring and can be as simple as a special wave through the window or a goodbye kiss. *Keep familiar surroundings when possible and make new surroundings familiar. Have the sitter come to your house. When your child is away from home, let him or her bring a familiar object.

*Have a consistent primary caregiver. If you hire a caregiver, try to keep him or her on the job. *Leave without fanfare. Tell your child you are leaving and that you will return, then go—don’t stall. *Minimize scary television. Your child is less likely to be fearful if the shows you watch are not frightening. *Try not to give in. Reassure your child that he or she will be just fine—setting limits will help the adjustment to separation. *

So –in summary – it is NORMAL! Some or all kids go through it some or other time. It is NOT because you are a bad mom and have to work and travel. I firmly belief in the above that you need to tell your child you are leaving BUT you will come back and also try to if you can in familiar surroundings. This is not always possible- I know. I would love for her to sleep in her own bed, play with her own toys, but at least when I leave her with my mother in law I know she will be cared and loved for.
So next time when my little girl is clingy when I return from a business trip – I am going to make the mind shift of not feeling guilty but to rather show her I missed her and that mommy is here and will give her 110% of my attention – does not matter how tired I am – Because they need that reassurance and that she is clingy because she missed me!

Seasons Greetings

dec 2012

Stress, stress go away, come back another day…

Children bring joy, love and countless gifts to our lives, and there is no deeper bond than that between mother and child. However, with the commitment to nurture another human being from infancy to adulthood (and beyond), comes an additional load of stress and the stress that comes with motherhood can be significant.

While each mother may face unique stressors, many demands of motherhood and the stressors experienced are virtually universal.

A High percentage of mothers feel stress in the following areas:

Time Demands
 Finance
 Relationship Demands
 Protective Instincts
 Self Doubt
 Time Alone

So if you want to live a healthier, happier and potentially live longer, you must reduce stress.

Let’s look at some fun and pleasurable ways to reduce stress and improve the quality of your life at the same time:

Exercise, especially aerobic exercise, can help to reduce stress. An additional side effect of exercise for stress reduction is that you might lose weight and gain muscle mass.

Sleep is so crucial to living a vital life. Ensuring you get enough sleep but not too much can be a tricky balancing act. Getting enough quality sleep will help reduce stress.

Reading helps relax your body while keeping your mind active.

Laughter is, as they have long said, the best medicine and that is the case with stress relief too. Find things you love to do, and do them. Throw a few jokes and laughter in along the way.


Come and Relax at Mommy Wellness with our Pure Stress Relief Treatment, for that half an hour we will transport you to another world! We will sooth away the tension in your scalp, back, neck and shoulders….

4th Trimester healing hour

nov 2012

Those early months of new motherhood can be exhausting. Our 4th Trimester Healing Hour helps to realign and restore your body as it naturally adapts and returns to being one person again. This is your healing hour – and you’ve earned it. A perfect present from your loved ones, or even from yourself.

Benefits and Intention:

The 4th Trimester Healing hour is composed to alleviate many of the discomforts experienced immediately after birth and assist in recuperation and the return of the clients body to its normal pre-pregnancy state. Massage stimulates glandular secretions, stabilizing hormonal levels making their side effects less severe, increase blood and lymphatic circulation, relieving oedema and swelling. The intention to stimulate a parasympathetic response, of the mother’s autonomic nervous system, (rest and relaxation). Skilled massage therapist establish good communication with their clients about their pressure and closely track their clients’ responses during the session.

Sunscreen for Summer

oct 2012

Summer is here and soon everyone will be looking for that perfect sunscreen that will give you the best protection for the summer sun. But unfortunately the most well-intentioned daily sunscreen wearers are likely doing it wrong.

Even the most diligent people who put on sunscreen everyday or buy makeup with SPF still are likely not getting the protection they think.

That’s because, for women, protecting yourself from the sun is more complex than just choosing an SPF number. The sunscreen in foundation or tinted moisturizer isn’t enough for everyday protection. And the sunscreen in cosmetics mostly offers protection against one type of ultraviolet ray, and makeup isn’t applied as thoroughly or frequently as needed.

And though dermatologists recommend wearing a sunscreen every day, most people don’t. Only about one in five people wears sunscreen properly on a consistent daily basis.

But a product’s SPF indicates only its ability to defend against sunburn-causing ultraviolet-B rays—and not against ultraviolet-A, which penetrate deeper into the skin and cause premature aging. (Both types contribute to skin cancer.) For example, a person wearing SPF 50 could spend considerable time in the sun without getting burned. “They think they’re getting protected but they’re getting the silent damage from UVA.

Sunscreen products that pass a new FDA test will now say “broad spectrum,” followed by the product’s SPF, to indicate its effectiveness for both types of rays. Dermatologists recommend wearing a broad-spectrum sunscreen with at least SPF 15 every day.

The UVA component is important, as window panes—at home or office or car—often blocks UVB but not UVA rays.

That is why I love Nimue’s new Sunscreen SPF 20, it provides the following:

• a wider variety of UVA filters that works in synergy giving you better protection – Nimue have in actual fact used a lower percentage of chemicals with double the SPF
• more antioxidants
• photostablisers so you move away from free radical formation and thus again enhance the performance of the SPF
• Moisturising properties
• Still the blend of organic and inorganic SPF’s

Nimue already conform with new SPF regulations that will come into play July 2013 and they have proven UVA protection done by an independent company (part of the July 2013 regulations) Do not delay in buying your sunscreen this summer and ensure that you do buy a sunscreen like Nimue that already conform to the SPF regulations for 2013.