Mental Health

Stress in Men

We’ve Got Your Man’s Back This Father’s Day

MOMMY WELLNESS HAS GOT YOUR MAN’S BACK THIS FATHER’S DAY!
(IN MORE WAYS THAN ONE)

This year it’s a NO NO to socks, ties, undies and please, definitely no Soap-On-A-Rope!

What to buy your Man?

Read on, we can help!

Mommy Wellness is not even going to entertain the thought, especially as we have the coolest specials ever, to celebrate the No.1 man in your life!

BUT FIRST

Since childhood, somehow buying for the female species young or old, has always seemed so much easier and much more exciting!

All those pretty things, delicious choccies, beautiful flowers, and a lot of bling of course, make females happy!

Then just as we are feeling very chuffed with ourselves and our pretty choices…

BOOM!  It’s a male’s turn to receive a gift, and worse, we have to buy it!

Oh my, let’s just run for the hills why don’t we, and along the way pick up a pair of socks or undies or a tie and maybe even a few golf balls?

STOP! Not this time!

Before discussing the ‘spoils’ we have lined up for that special man of yours, we thought we would just chat a little about that horrible and very real word ‘STRESS’, which affects most of us if not all, at one time or another in our lives.

Sadly, and as much as we would love to believe that we can escape it, stress is relentless and doesn’t discriminate.

Regardless of gender, it has the tendency of secretly creeping up on one and launching some pretty scathing attacks!

It is also interesting to note various studies conducted, that there is a difference between how men and women experience and manage stress levels differently.

This is where Mommy Wellness comes to the rescue and identified the opportunity of making the difference, in the interests of the whole family, not only Dad’s.

Although a lot of stress symptoms experienced by men are similar to those experienced by women, men are not as outspoken when it comes to admitting them.

That’s just probably due to the typical trait of male stubbornness but hey, it’s real and we need to take notice of them.

As expected, (yes, tongue in cheek), facts suggest that women manage their stress levels far better than men, (well we would think so, we have the babies, don’t we)?

Men are also more likely to experience depression brought on by work-related issues and are also likely to become more socially withdrawn when stressed.

Even more importantly, stress related to home, work or relationships is a major contribution to psychological impotence.  For no other reason besides that we could discuss this topic for hours, we are not going to go into detail, other than suffice to say that a good, professional massage will help release all that stress too.

CALLING MOMMY WELLNESS TO THE RESCUE

It is important when de-stressing, that you ensure you are in a peaceful and tranquil environment, where you are able to relax both body and mind simultaneously.

Mommy Wellness has it all, offering a serene, comfortable environment, with highly trained and professional staff who know how to pamper and spoil.

This year for Father’s Day, Mommy Wellness is proposing that in the interest of Daddy Wellness, you treat the special man in your life to a choice of one of the two luxurious massage packages that we have put together, including a little gift, of course.

‘THE DUDE TO DAD PACKAGE’ (Don’t you love the name)? > Click here for more special details

  • Swedish Full Body Massage
  • Scalp Massage
  • The Boss Pedicure
  • Surprise Gift

OR:

  • A 45-Minute Hot Stone Back Massage
  • The Boss Pedicure
  • Surprise Gift

By this stage, we know the Moms are already green with envy, so as a token of fully understanding that ‘left-out’ feeling, we have put together the fabulous ‘For Her’ package which includes a 45-Minute Hot Stone Back Massage and a Deluxe Pedicure!

Sorry, but as much as we would love to have included a little gift for Moms, not this time.  That would be losing focus, don’t you think?

So, with not much time left before the 16th, choose a Mommy Wellness branch near you and spoil that man!

Not that you probably need much more convincing, take a look at these important facts about massage:

STRESS NOT ONLY AFFECTS THE MIND
Stress can affect every part of your body, causing muscle stiffness and pain. A good massage will help tremendously.

IT LIFTS YOUR MOOD
Stress affects the mood.  Massage is a most relaxing and enjoyable way to reduce stress.

IT HELPS ACHIEVE GOALS
Keeping stress in check is one of the best ways to stay on track and reach your goals.

IT IS OFTEN USED TO HELP CHRONIC ILLNESS AND INJURIES
When combined with advice and a maintenance regime from your GP, it can work wonders.

IT HELPS WITH OVERALL HEALTH AND FITNESS
Helps reduce blood pressure and maintain a healthier circulatory system too.

 

Men for the sake of earning a living forget to live ~ Margaret Fuller

May 2018 Newsletter

NEWSLETTER - May 2018

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Original article by Isabelle Dagenais (http://www.motherforlife.com)

What is the foundation of a mother and child relationship? If you bet on unconditional love, read on and find out that even this love can face troubled times.

As for every other aspect of maternity, we don’t know what personality our child will have. We all dream of a lovely baby who only cries when they need something and who can easily be calmed down and you might get lucky… But others will have a child who suffers from colic, gastric reflux or other medical issues. Some babies have “intense needs” and cry for hours every day and no one can satisfy them. This situation can cause suffering and give you a feeling of worthlessness, especially if it happens regularly.

Nevertheless, we must adapt to their ways of showing their needs! Adapting to the temper of our child may take some time, especially if they do not meet our expectations. In this case we must forget about the ideal baby… and one day, we will accept them and things will be better!

What also helps is to realize that we are not responsible for our baby’s temper. If you doubt that babies are born with their own temper, ask the mother of twins and she will tell you how different they were from the beginning. It doesn’t mean that we have no impact on our child! Of course, our perception of the situations, our emotions and reactions influence our child and that is why we should take good care of our emotional state.

Mother-child relationship

Each mother-child relationship is unique and begins long before our child is born.

Remember the time when you desired a child or your thoughts when you realized that you were pregnant. Not to mention your pregnancy and labor…

  • Did you want a child?
  • How did you react to the news?
  • What physical and psychological state were you when you were pregnant?
  • How did the delivery go?
  • How was your first contact?
  • Do you adapt easily to your child’s temper?

Each of those steps was influenced by thoughts and emotions… Each of those steps is part of your lives and of your relationship with your child.

Regret and guilt

Many of you regret some thoughts, emotions or reactions. You wish things had been different and you are afraid of the consequences on your child or on your relationship. Or you feel guilty and you want to fix the “wrongs” that you think you have caused to your child.

Is there a thought or a reaction that you had related to your child and you still couldn’t forgive yourself?

If you have regrets or if you are feeling guilty, it is important to try to forgive yourself and to accept what you have been through. Remember that you acted to the best of your knowledge and that you had no bad intentions. Make peace with the past to avoid dragging this energy into your relationship with your child. Your guilt could influence your behavior or make you feel even guiltier when your child will go through tough times.

To begin feeling better, I suggest an exercise that is in my book. Write a letter to your child and express your regrets, your emotions, your deceptions and the way you feel as a mother. Avoid censorship so that it is truly liberating and once you are done throw the letter away!

Relational challenges

Most people believe that because we wanted a child, our relationship with them will be wonderful! We believe that our love will protect us from problems and conflicts. In fact, love will help us to remain engaged in this relationship when disagreements will occur.

Through their temper, their behavior or their attitude, a child can trigger unwanted emotions. Sometimes, our relationship with our child may be difficult if we are constantly forced to face our limits and our flaws. It is as if some situations were getting to the worst of us. Most of our scars, limits and flaws will be highlighted on this road to motherhood. It is, therefore, necessary to learn to do some soul searching to understand the way we feel and learn from the situation. Blaming our child is never an option.

By taking full responsibility, we build strong foundations to this relationship that we care about so much. Whether we have a baby, a young child or a pre-teen, the goal is to build our relationship every day, to accept their temper, to tolerate a behavior that displeases us, to express compassion for their distress and to do so even if we don’t understand!

In conclusion, I want to share this inspirational quote:

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February 2018 Newsletter

NEWSLETTER - February 2018

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Original article by Meg Faure

Bonding has been defined as “The emotional and physical attachment occurring between a parent or parent figure, especially a mother, and offspring, that usually begins at birth and is the basis for further emotional affiliation.”

Bonding plays a critical role in your baby’s emotional development, which in turn is the basis for all future relationships. One cannot underestimate the importance of attachment and bonding.

The cycle of love

Bonding is more than a warm fuzzy feeling – it is a critical, deep emotional involvement with and trust in another person. It is a journey of getting to know, trust and rely on another person. There is a misconception that bonding occurs like ‘love at first sight’. The reality is that it is a process that develops over time. Bonding may begin in pregnancy or even before conception; it may occur like a flash at birth or may in fact take months to develop.

Falling in love in pregnancy

Some parents have waited a long time for their little one and being pregnant brings wonderful feelings of joy. For many pregnant mums, the hormones and expectancy lead her into a love relationship right from the start. In this case, you may begin dreaming of your baby and as you rub your tummy feel the swell of love for your baby. This process has been fast tracked by technology – we know we are pregnant way before women in the past years did. By 17 weeks most parents have seen their little one at least once. We share early photos of our baby in the womb and so begin to bond early. When your baby beings to move and wriggle you may feel love for this little person. In fact, many mums mourn the end of those fluttery feelings after her baby is born.

For others however, pregnancy may be difficult, unwanted or scary. Antenatal depression is being recognized more and more and we now know that it is not uncommon for a woman to feel very ambivalent towards her baby. Likewise, Dads may experience depression and anxiety in pregnancy and this will impact on their bond with their baby at that time.

The good news is that this is not reason to predict a poor or inadequate bond at a later stage. Most parents will go on to bond well with their little one later.

Falling in love in the delivery room

The moment we meet our babies we expect to feel overwhelming love. For some parents, this is the experience, as they look at this tiny, beautiful, helpless being they are flooded with feelings of love. Natural delivery of your baby will facilitate this emotional response as all the hormones released by birth create a flood of endorphins that give you a high. If the delivery is difficult or very long or either mum or babe are in danger, the feelings may be very different. Exhaustion and despair if things don’t turn out well can negatively impact on those love juices. Your feeling may be of gloom and being overwhelmed and this will mean you don’t feel like you are bonding. On the other hand some mums have a wonderful birth experience and meet their perfect baby and yet feel no love or great fascination with their baby.

Once again the good news is that this immediate emotional response does not predict your relationship with your baby and love and bonding may come later for you.

Falling in love after a period of months

For other parents, love is a long slow journey. There are no A-Ha moments, just a gradual development of a love relationship. If this love develops within the context of a caring, consistent relationship, it is no problem at all for your baby.

It is vital that mums know that not everyone is overwhelmed with love at the sight of their baby. If however, you never feel love towards your baby and your mothering role is a process of acting out the motions and you are overcome with depression or anxiety, you do need to get help for Post Natal Depression as this condition may impact on your baby emotionally.

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January 2018 Newsletter

NEWSLETTER - January 2018

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Original article by Meg Faure

Science and wisdom tell us that play is vital for a child’s development. The problem is that as a busy parent, it may feel like an enormous challenge to find the time to play or you may find that you are unsure about how to play with your little one. In chapter 10 of Baby Sense, we talk about 4 guidelines for stimulation and we use the acronym T.E.A.T:

1. Timing

Play with your little one when he is well rested and not hungry, preferably in the calm-alert state. This is the state that is best for learning and making brain connections. You will know your baby is receptive to activities, when he is calm, making eye contact – reaching for toys and showing interest in the world.

The opportunity can present it self in normal daily activities such as nappy change time, bath time or mealtime. In addition, it is worth setting aside 15 minutes a day to get onto the floor and focus 100% on your child.

2. Environment

To focus happily on play, you will want a space that is firstly safe – without hazards such as plug holes, loose book shelves and open water. Try to de-clutter the space and not have too many toys on offer. Put your mobile device away and get onto the floor with your child and offer 3-5 carefully chosen activities or toys. In this way the play environment is conducive to fun and learning.

3. Activities

An activity is simply an interaction with your little one that enhances development and is fun. Games such as peek-a-boo or reading a book together, learning a new nursery rhyme or finger painting are all examples of activities that spark interest as well as teach vital skills. 

4. Toys

Carefully chosen toys are a fabulous way to spark your child’s imagination and teach skills. Toys should be matched with your child’s age. The best toys require one of two things from your baby:

  • A toy may spark imagination – such as a doll, a toy phone or a pretend kitchen. These toys are brilliant for encouraging language, creativity and collaboration with you. You and your little one can take on roles and pretend play together.
  • A toy may enhance skills – such as a ball, shape sorter or a puzzle. These toys demand a certain level of interaction from your little one. Watch for interest in a certain area and offer a toy that will provide just the right challenge to your child.

Enjoy playing with your little one and know that through appropriate timing, a stimulating environment and the right activities and toys, you can spark your child’s brilliance.

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